Own Your Unique Purpose:
Discover The Inside Out Approach to Business
It’s December 10th, 2019... I’m sitting with some of my favourite people, in a cozy living room with epic mountain views, each of us wearing cozy blankets at our first ever Scale Naturally Annual Retreat. I share that I saw someone post about how powerful it is that we are starting a new decade and how my first response was “that’s ridiculous, it doesn’t mean anything.” I go on to share that since then I’ve started to get a sense that starting this new decade really is a big deal...
Immediately the “magic wand” (which we always bring to our retreats) that’s sitting on the coffee table starts going off… lights, sound, buzzing.
No one had even touched it!
In that moment I think we all got the message, entering not only a new year but a new decade IS a big deal.
Recall for a moment, what was life like back in 2009? How much has your life and career/business changed?
And think for a moment about these next 10 years… by 2029, what is possible for you to create?
I’d love to share some questions to help spark some “New Era” energy for you. To do that, I invite you to consider this moment of your life as a bridge between the Old Era and the New Era.
I’ve seen repeatedly that before most good things come in, often there’s some type of purging or letting go. Of people, habits, ways of operating, thinking and more. So join me to look at 3 key areas I believe space must be made in order for this to happen.
I invite you to reflect on these 3 key areas to get clear on what belongs to the Old Era, the old reality that you are ready to move beyond and what would take its place in the New Era, the new reality you’re ready to create. By making changes in these 3 areas you send the message to the Universe that you are serious and own that you expect and are serious about creating the new.
I invite you to get into a reflective state and invite your answers to come from deep inside (I’ve found my mind to not give the best insights). Grab a pen and paper, or whatever works for you and jot down responses to questions that stand out to you:
What are you tired of regarding people in your life, whether that’s clients, friends, family, mentors, etc.?
What behaviours and treatment have you been tolerating? What types of people are you sick of having to deal with? What situations are no longer working for you?
What are traits of non-ideal clients that you are ready to stop tolerating?
What are you no longer willing to accept and tolerate?
What new behaviours are the standard you’d like to set for the people you allow into your life and inner circle? (Ex. Respect boundaries).
What is the new standard quality for friends? And for those in your inner circle? (Ex. Want the best for me, take responsibility for their own life).
What are qualities of your ideal clients you’d like to have be the standard?
What am I no longer willing to tolerate from myself? What habits, behaviours, ways of being am I no longer willing to accept from myself?
What must I truly face and heal in order to process and release what’s holding me back?
What habits do I have that I know are harming my well being and business?
In what way do I want more from myself?
What expectations have I had on myself that were unreasonable and unrealistic that I need to drop or lessen?
Have I been soft, gentle and compassionate with myself or hard on myself, critical and harsh? (If you’ve been more on the harsh side, you may want to check out Kristin Neff’s awesome book called Self Compassion).
What new habits or routines could I create that would have me feel my best this year?
What support can I give myself to truly heal what I need to heal?
What do I need in order to be my best? How can I make sure I give it to myself?
What is one thing I can focus on that will help me be my best this year in terms of well being?
What one thing could I do differently that would be a game changer in my business?
3. Time and Energy
What ways have I handled my time that have held back the growth of my business?
What boundaries did I set for myself and then cross or let others cross?
What did I not devote enough time, energy and focus to that would seriously increase my chances of greater success?
What time consuming thing do I need to let go of? What am I no longer willing to tolerate that has been draining my time and energy?
What have I been prioritizing that hasn’t helped my well being or the well being of my business?
What hasn’t been working in my daily/weekly/monthly structure, schedule or rituals?
What new boundaries could I establish to honour what I need to thrive? What new boundaries could I establish to honour what my business needs to thrive?
What is most important for my success and well being this year that I choose to guard and protect with boundaries?
What limits do I need to set?
What are my top priorities this year?
What changes might I consider in my daily/weekly/monthly structure, schedule or rituals?
To sum it up, what might you call the Old Era? And what might you call the New Era?
Now that you have your insights, review what you’ve written and circle or highlight what feels most important. With that in mind, I’ve found things have a higher chance of changing if I:
Choose. Make a conscious choice to what you decide to do to let go of the old and to create the new.
Willingness. Changing the reality in your life and business in a significant way isn’t simple, quick or easy in most cases. What I’ve found it to be most important is to be 100% willing to face and deal with whatever inside of me is keeping me stuck in the old. Especially the things I’d rather ignore. This includes the willingness to get help.
Open to Life’s magic. Once I make a choice and am 100% willing to deal with my stuff, I often see books, signs, and so much more show up to give me what I need and also to show me I’m on the right track.
Action. As soon as possible I begin taking the new steps. Adjust your schedule now, start your new habit today, or whatever it is you know you need to do.
Want to take this deeper? Check out the video below!
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